Cooperative Coparenting through Separation or Divorce

Video-based Coparenting Program

This newly revised program helps parents shield their children from parental conflict related to separation or divorce. Over 8 sessions (16-20 hours), parents learn to defuse conflict by minimizing blame and taking responsibility for their contribution while establishing a positive, long-term, cooperative relationship with the other parent. The videoembedded PowerPoint is available on Flash Drive or Streaming.

Written by therapists Susan Boyan and Ann Marie Termini, it is the most extensive, informative, and interactive resource to date examining the complex realities of coparenting.

How the coparenting program works:

Facilitated by a parent educator, the 8-week program is part video and part group discussion. It is recommended for groups of 10-16 parents. Each session is designed to last 2 – 2.5 hours. (If you need a shorter seminar version, try the 4-hour Crossroads program based on Cooperative Parenting and Divorce.)

This newly revised program includes all of the key concepts of the original classic, such as:

  • Educating parents on the impact their conflict has on their children
  • Educating parents on how to replace destructive reactions with constructive responses
  • Teaching parents the practical skills they need to manage anger, increase impulse control, resolve conflict and talk to each other without arguing
CoCo - Rodriguez Dad and Son

Plus new topics:

  • How to set up a two home communication system
  • Challenging parents to confront negative patterns
  • Taking more responsibility
  • Handling finances
  • Dealing with typical issues such as returning clothing
  • Handling transfers
  • The impact of a significant other

With all new videos embedded in an engaging PowerPoint presentation on Flash Drive or Streaming. All the materials are organized in a way that makes it easy to teach—and to learn!

The powerful and practical Parent’s Guide provides vital information and gives real-life examples and worksheets so parents can practice their new skills in the comfort of their own home. It serves as a useful reminder of effective strategies long after the course is over—a must have for all course participants!

Here’s what you’ll be teaching:

  • Session 1: Child-Focused or Out of Focus: Making the Commitment to Caring
  • Session 2: Plan for Peace or Tug of War: Allowing My Child to Love Both Parents
  • Session 3: Letting Go or Holding On: Changing My Long-Term Role
  • Session 4: Make It Better or Keep It Bitter: Choosing My Personal Path
  • Session 5: Neither Fight nor Take Flight: Managing My Anger
  • Session 6: Defuse or Light the Fuse: Taking Control of Conflict
  • Session 7: Negotiating Agreements: All a Winner or Winner Take All
  • Session 8: Cooperation or Conflict: Coparenting Is Forever

Other Program Materials:

Cooperative Coparenting through Separation or Divorce Parent's Guide

Cooperative Coparenting through Separation or Divorce Parent’s Guide

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Cooperative Coparenting through Separation or Divorce Leader's Guide

Cooperative Coparenting through Separation or Divorce Leader’s Guide

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Cooperative Coparenting through Separation or Divorce Certificate of Completion

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The material is very informative, concise, and easily understandable for our high-conflict parents.  My team and I watched some session videos yesterday and went through the session topics, and we think this would be a good program to implement with our Court-ordered Clients.  We liked how interactive the program is for the co-parents and group leaders.  It is a very valuable program.

~ Terry Mays, M.S.
Family Court Specialist Registered Mediator, Parenting Coordinator
South Bend, Indiana


“This is one of the most rewarding programs that I teach. It is a phenomenal privilege to work with parents
experiencing great depths of pain and watch them evolve into empathetic individuals who elevate their children’s well-being above
any disagreements they may have. Parents leave the sessions feeling supported, heard, but most importantly…validated!”

~ Pamela Ingram Wood
Life Coach/Parenting Specialist/Family Mediator

“This classic guide to successful co-parenting is full of nuts-and-bolts ways to create a positive co-parenting relationship
for the benefit of the children. It is comprehensive and invaluable, for both parents and practitioners.”

~ Siri Gottlieb, JD, LMSW, Ann Arbor, Michigan

“The authors…take your hand through the journey of coparenting by mapping the way, offering tools and directions on
how to get there, and providing skills training for the trip. Their chapters are like mile-markers; for each one you
reach, you’re closer to your destination of healthier parenting and a healthier you. …
Some books talk about coparenting; this one shows you how.”

~ Gail A. Olson, Ph.D. Licensed Therapist and Instructor

“A must-read for all divorcing and divorced parents, their families, and professionals
who work with them and their children. A true gem of a book…reader-friendly, action-oriented and practical.”

~ Helen Coale, LCSW, LMFT
Author of The Vulnerable Therapist: Practicing Psychotherapy In an Age of Anxiety


“This curriculum has been used by our counseling center for many years as a resource guide for parents
in our community who are struggling with the unique challenges of coparenting.

The material is easy-to-comprehend and gives both concrete suggestions as well as guiding
principles that can be adapted to each family’s specific needs.”

~ Janeen Velarde, LMFT Clinical Director
San Jose, CA

“I love the clear, step-by-step guidelines this workbook provides for positive coparenting.  I require each court-referred coparent to use this by reading a chapter prior to our joint meetings, then we start each session with what they have learned and seek to implement.  Regardless of background or learning style, I consistently get positive feedback from parents about how readable and helpful this workbook is in helping them understand the impact of their choices on creating a positive coparenting relationship to permit their child to truly thrive in both households.”

~ Dr. Tiffany Whitworth, Psychologist
Atlanta, Georgia

“Neither marriage nor parenting come with a handbook; and unfortunately, divorce and co-parenting do not either. This guide is the closest workbook or “how to” you will find that is not only informative but user friendly to both parenting coordinators and parents. The Cooperative Coparenting through Separation or Divorce Parent Guide is a one stop shop for both quality and convenience for parents, therapists and/or Parenting Coordinators.”

~ Lindsay Cambre,
Licensed Professional Counselor & Parenting Coordinator

“Working on coparenting skills while using the Cooperative Coparenting guide helped me
tremendously. I learned how to see my role as a parent and how to pause to step back and adjust, not
only my behaviors, but my reactions for the best outcome for my children.”

~ Chris, Coparent, Atlanta, GA

“This Cooperative Coparenting through Separation or Divorce Parent Guide is filled with valuable suggestions, and challenging exercises. As this second edition shows, the authors have learned and added a lot. Any parent facing a separation or divorce will find this guide immensely helpful.”

~ Bill Eddy, attorney, therapist, mediator, and developer of the New Ways for Families parenting skills method and author of numerous books, including BIFF for CoParent Communication. 

“This workbook provides a step-by-step guide to facilitate divorced parents to learn how to change their role from couple to co-parents for the best interests of children. The Three Rings concepts illustrates the importance of keeping children maintaining a stable connection with both parents and shielding them from parental conflict.” 

~ WONG Suet-wing
Parenting Coordinator, Hong Kong Family Welfare Society


Winner of a 2000 Parent’s Guide to Children’s Media (Parenting Division) Award!

Here’s what the judges had to say:

“Divorce itself is tough on children, but constant, often bitter conflict that persists after the divorce makes it even tougher. Divorced or divorcing parents will find the workbook and video vignettes openly address likely areas of conflict and offer possible solutions that keep parents centered on what they can both agree on: the happiness and well-being of their child. Open communication and genuine respect, even amidst understandable differences, ground the conflict-resolving strategies. In the tradition of other Active Parenting series, the leader’s guide is chockful of practical ideas to engage parents in the subject.”

–Parent’s Guide to Children’s Media, Fall 2000 edition